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In my head and therefore my house

I’m probably the least organized person I know. Not only was organization not taught or modeled to me by my Mother, I just don’t think my brain works that way. Since I have been married, almost 8 yrs now, I’ve worked on becoming more organized.

I’ve read books, magazines, blogs and studied my organized friends. (don’t tell them that, though!) All to find the answers. How can I get a hold on my clutter issue? How can I set up my house to flow better? And why do I create clutter?

I can’t organize a closet to save my life. Organize to me is go find a closet shelving unit. Put said items on said shelf. And VOILA! I’m organized. The shelving system organizes FOR me. Right? Ummm….so so so wrong. *Sigh*

Now what? I have some major issues I’m facing in my house. Thirty pairs of shoes at 2 separate entrances in a mess on the stairs. Coats thrown on the same stairs. Backpacks. Scarves. Closets that are catch-alls. Where do I even begin? And it’s such a daunting task because I don’t even know how to get started. Or how to fix it.

Everything I’ve learned in my life has taught me that you can’t fix the symptoms. It’s a core issue somewhere inside. Fix that. Change that and the outside will change…or so I thought.

Here I am analyzing and analyzing years later….what is it about me, the way I think or process life, that leads me to create clutter? Not just create it, but hate dealing with it. And then kick and scream to clean it up.

A couple of weeks ago, I came to ask myself this question. How do I know when to accept something about myself as it’s “the way that I am” versus keep trying to change and become better at something? (meaning becoming organized)

My husband and I had a big talk about this question. And he made some good points, because he always does. Smart guy. He knows me so well. Here’s what he said. He thought I was confusing “WHO I am” with “WHAT I do”. Of course!!! That’s it.

But now what? I still have no place for my shoes. 🙁

Please welcome my dear friend, Amelia…

It’s important to know when you can’t do something on your own and when to ask for help. Normally I have no problem asking for help. For some reason, I had a hard time accepting my friend’s help. She had offered to come over and talk about my house “flow”, whatever that meant. I had no idea. I thought you just went to Ikea or Storables or Pottery Barn, bought said “organizing system” and then you were done.

So wrong.

Amelia came over last week and we talked and talked and talked. After analyzing my flow, she had some awesome suggestions. I was afraid working with a professional organizer would be more like, “this is what you should do, this is how you should do it.”

She said none of that. It was more of a conversation about what types of organizing would help our flow “flow better”. Make sense? For example, we need 2 separate stations for taking off shoes and coats. My husband enters through the front door and strips there. (haha, strips!) And I come in through the garage and strip on the back stairs. This whole paragraph is making me smile.

After planning our 2 stations, we measured, researched good hardware that fit my style, and away we shopped.  I was able to get the front area put together pretty quickly, but I had to plan a bit more for the back area. I still haven’t gotten it all up on the wall.

Here’s a look at the results.
























I know this isn’t anything spectacular. Just some simple changes, but let me tell you, it has helped TREMENDOUSLY. I feel more clarity in my mind.

Next up is finishing the back station. And I’m also working on my command center. Love calling it that. She says every house needs a command center. For me, it’s currently my kitchen counter which I’m sure a lot of you can relate to. I’ll post those results as I finish them.

Happy organizing. Do you think there is a connection from what’s inside to what we create on the outside?


*If you want my friend’s contact info, please leave your email in the comments section and I will pass it on to her.


  1. Aw shucks, thanks Rebecca! 🙂

  2. 🙂 Yeah, now you need to get your business going so I can send people on over to it!!

  3. Working on it! I have a design brief out to a designer already… I’ll let you know when it’s up and running as a site.

  4. Like!! I blog quite often and I genuinely thank you for your information. The article has truly peaked my interest.

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