Instant Friends

A few of my closest Mommy friends I met in our childbirth class. It’s funny to me how we barely talked in the childbirth class. Then once the babies were born, we were instant friends. I’ve made many new friends at various classes for new moms. Sometimes I would meet a friend for a walk and when I got there, 3 other Moms showed up I hadn’t met before. Someone had invited them and it was great. The more, the merrier. I loved meeting other Moms! Many connections were made through other Moms. My Mommy circle just kept getting bigger and bigger.

I’ve never really had a problem making friends or getting along with someone I just met. But once I had my son, it seemed even more fascinating how quickly I connected with another Mom.

One time I was at the Gap buying socks for my son. The sales lady of course fell in love with my son and couldn’t stop giggling at him. We started talking and turns out she had a baby boy at home the same age as mine. I somehow knew this when I met her. We hit it off instantly and quickly were talking like we had been friends for 10 years. Why is that?

Now this has been happening all over the place. I meet a Mom at a park and then we are hanging out the next week with our babies. I’ve met friends in nursing rooms at the Mall, Babies R Us, bathrooms, clothing stores, consignment shops, restaurants, coffee shops.

Maybe it’s that I meet a Mom and instantly I know she knows how I feel. I KNOW she’s changed hundreds of diapers, been peed on, spit up on, screamed at, been up all night over and over, rocked a sick baby, endured through labor, doubted herself, wondered if she was alone, felt hopeless, and has had her heart totally melted the first time she saw her baby smile and all over again fell totally in love!!!

After all this, the connection between Moms can’t really be described. It can’t be put into words. I’ve tried but it’s only the tip of the iceberg. When I meet a new Mom, I feel inspired. I feel adoration, respect, acknowledgment, acceptance, and unconditional love. There’s no competition anymore. It’s more of a partnership among women.

I truly treasure meeting new Moms and hearing their experience, especially through difficult and happy times during the first year.

I remember a funny experience one of my dear friends had a few months ago. She was out with her baby and husband. I think they were at a restaurant. She ran into another Mom and they started talking. They exchanged phone numbers because they wanted to connect again later. After they had left, my friends husband says surprisingly, “Did you really just ask that woman for her phone number?”